Definition: Impossible to comprehend or grasp, So unlikely or surprising as to have been thought impossible; unbelievable…Amber Lewis
To a woman who is told she is infertile this word fits both meanings. Its impossible to comprehend how something you’ve wanted so bad for so long could be so unlikely and impossible to reach. How something that comes so easily for so many could be so far out of reach for others. How God could have choose this path for your life while others who seem to not want their children are blessed with so many.
I was diagnosed with PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) and an arcuate uterus (crazy misshapen) officially this summer and ever since then my life has become a roller coaster of emotions. It was bad enough when I just had screwy ovaries that didn’t work right. At least then I had some hope that a “magic” little pill could fix the problem, but then when you add the messed up uterus the chances of having a miscarriage or premature labor grows tremendously. Part of me thinks I’m selfish for even considering attempting to carry a child when I know that my body has already predisposed itself to failure. I know that there are people who have been barren for years only to find out one day that they are blessed with child. And I know that its not even been a year since I found out my diagnosis and that I shouldn’t give up so easily, but it’s hard. I’m trying everyday to remember Jeremiah 29:11 and know that Gods plan for my life is far greater than anything I could ever imagine, but even that seems inconceivable to me. It seems that almost every week another of my dear friends is being blessed with the joy of pregnancy, and I am so happy for them, but at the same time it kills me a little each time. And yes, I know that there are so many children in the world that are just longing for homes, and adoption is a real option, but then again it seems so far out of reach as well. The average adoption is $25-30000. All the money has to be there and paid before you can even bring the child home and there’s not much financial assistance for people who are middle class. It will be years before we could even have that kind of money saved up to start the process.
So for know all I can do is hope for a miracle and pray that if that miracle doesn’t happen that God will show me His plan for my life and give me the peace and understanding I need to be OK with being…inconceivable. “For I know that plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans of wholeness and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11